Gossip Girl

A happy good morning from Siberia!

Had another interesting journey last night!  This time, I might not go into details, because it’s my least favorite Dream Theme!  The symbolism is basically about my fear of abandonment.  I guess even though I’m secure in my relationship & my meaningful friendships, after losing mom the theme is probably subconsciously on my mind.

Then again, lots of things are on my mind these days, every day, since forever.  Nothing new there.  I’ve always spent (way too much?) time thinking about people, their motivations or what makes them tick,  and Life – especially Life – its meaning, what comes after.  That’s *always* been me.  I think I started asking questions the moment I learnt to talk.

The one thing I love about growing older is how clearer things get: you gain so much perspective and understanding as the experiences add up.

People are just not that creative: whether specific individuals (most people reproduce what they know and very rarely change – unless something drastic happens to them like an Illness, an Accident – something ‘big’), or Archetypal Humans (as a Species).  As you age, it gets easier to recognize behavioural trends.

No one’s behavior is entirely black or white – good or not, we adapt to circumstances, people, and act differently around them, but there are certainly general tendencies within each of us: whether they’re learnt or inherited.

It kind of reminds me of ‘Gossip’.  How ‘Gossip’ could be seen as a General thing people do.. but really depending on who does it, and what the intrinsinc or extrinsinc motivation is found behind it, it will completely change its nature.

Some people like to Gossip for example to be Funny, make others laugh.  Maybe another does it just for the sheer tongue wag entertainment factor.  Or to make themselves sound important, in-the-know, interesting.  That sort of ‘Gossip’ – Gossiper – is mostly harmless in my opinion.  Though it would be better to imagine ourselves as the subject of the Gossip first, and think about how we would feel if we were at its center.

The other kind, on the other hand, is very destructive.  Some Gossip is about inflicting pain.  It’s a form of bullying.  Someone will hear something about someone else, unflattering or the like, and ‘choose’ to perpetuate it by either sharing it with their peers/family or go directly to the person, whom the gossip is about, and tell them about it.

Firstly, Socrates 3 Rules comes to mind: Is it True?  Is it Useful?  Is it Kind?

Well, it’s *never* kind to perpetuate unflattering or hurtful information.  Never.  And therefore, doing so, says a lot about the ‘Gossiper’.

Those Gossipers might attempt to justify themselves by saying things like: “It’s always better to know” or.. “Don’t shoot the Messenger” as though the pain they just inflicted you – because it may have ‘first’ been spoken by someone else – has nothing to do with them.

Absolutely rubbish.  It is their Choice to either let the Negativity dissipate here and now, or perpetuate it.  They take satisfaction in repeating (and usually with some distortion or exaggeration) the message.  They have a Purpose in doing so.  Always, without exception, an Unkindly one at that.

So, yes.  The same action can mean so many things, but not infinitely so.  There are only so many possibilities to meanings behind actions.

Dr Phil says: People do what Serves them.  People that throw mud, never come out of it clean.  It just never brings luck to cause sufferance to others.

Sometimes, the only Success you can have is “Letting Go”.  Letting go of what’s been said, as well as letting go of the Person saying it.

Other times, Being Left is the Best thing that could happen to you.  It’s basically Destiny telling you you’ve learnt what you needed to learn.  You’re done.  So, don’t look back.

Keep moving forward.  Find the Kindness.  Be..the Kindness others are Searching for.  Get out of the Mud.  Cultivate Honey.  Bring Light and Joy to your Life and be the Light for others to Rejoice in.  Stop worrying.  Life is predictable.  Things may suck right now, but guess what?  “This too shall pass”.  Tomorrow is a different day.  Things will be better.  If not, then maybe the next.  Or the one after that.

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