Consistency

Dear you,

it’s been a while!  I’ve been incredibly busy lately between the School holidays and personal projects.  It’s been great!

That said, I’ve also had a lot on my mind that I’ve been meaning to share here, but just couldn’t find the time.  Thankfully, today is going to be relatively quiet so here I am!

One of the things I wanted to talk about was ‘Consistency’, because I’ve been witnessing so many things that come back to the importance of it.

I’ve noticed that a lot of our problems in life stem from Inconsistency and Conditionality.  What I mean by that is that a lot of the way we interact with the World ‘depends’ on our mood, how we feel on a certain day.  The Receptivity, the Positivity we show to others will be greatly influence on our ‘Moment in Time’, and also based on Past Experiences shared together.

When we get up on the wrong side of the bed and snap at our husband (moment in time), he probably won’t take it to heart (if this isn’t your ‘usual’ way), because we have a Loving Unconditional Relationship (Accumulation of Past Experiences).

Then, let’s say you get to work and you snap at your Coworker.. depending on how Positive that relationship is generally speaking (Accumulation of Past Experiences) you are either “Reinforcing” her Negative view of you.. or not.

The more you ‘Do’ a certain thing the more it not only Defines your relationship with people, but becomes Who you are.  You can’t ‘Consistently’ Snap at someone/people, and be seen as a Positive person.  That is just not in Alignment.

This is where I’m getting at: You have to decide for yourself (take Control of your Inner Temporal Inconsistencies) who you want to be, what kind of relationships you want to have with people and Align your Behavior to Match up to it (be in Alignment).

There are relationships in my life where the people are *always* upset at our Lack of Closeness, when they Consistently Ignore me or are Rude to me “Unless” they want something from me.  Ignoring people, being Rude or Negative is not in “Alignment” with wanting a Positive Relationship manifested through “Closeness”.

What you do “Consistently” Defines you and will Mold your Relationships.

Many times, people will see themselves as “Nice”, because they Sporadictly “try” (this is the temporal Inconsistent behavior) to do the Right thing..  So, the Norm/Normality of the Relationship is when they ‘do not try’.  No Flower will grow if you only water it ‘sometimes’.  As proud as you may be for having watered it that one time.

If there is a Relationship you’re unhappy with, ask yourself, what am I Consistent in doing?  Am I Consistently Nice to this person or not?  If you are Consistently nice to someone and still the relationship is negative, ask yourself what Nature is the Experiences Accumulated: Have you been unkind for years (Accumulation of Negative Experiences) and now have been Consistently trying to do better?  If so, it will take a while to turn the boat around, if at all.

Some relationships can’t be salvaged, if they took too many beatings.

That said, it’s never too late to do the right thing, be the kind of person you want to be.  Whether or not the Result of your Actions are what you’re hoping for, the way you Act Defines you – Always.  So, really, is it that important how people “React” to you?  As long as you are being yourself (in Soul Alignment), the rest is not yours.  How Others behave does not ‘necessarily’ Reflect who you are – though sometimes, it can.

The best way to know if it’s You or Them is Very easy to figure out.

The Difficulty that is witnessed between the both of you – the struggle, the negativity – is it only between you both or.. are there more Problems/Negativity/Struggles elsewhere in their Life.  Generalization of Problematic Behavior is a very Good Key in finding out who the Struggle belongs to.

Usually, people that we can’t engage in a Consistent Positive Relationship with (however Hard we try) will Struggle in one or more Areas of their Life: Work, Family, Amorous Relationship, Peers, etc. This then becomes a Mental Health issue and the best thing to do in that case, is remain yourself, and let go of the Result if you choose to keep the relationship or let go of the Person themselves if their behavior is destructive.

It took me many years to figure all of this out, as I used to shoulder the Nature of *every* relationship I had.  Generally speaking, I’m on good terms with pretty much Everyone I’ve ever met since Primary school if I chose it.  The few which I simply can’t seem to mold into what I wish it would be, I’ve come to realize the Challenge doesn’t belong to me.  When I look at their life, they usually have many relational struggles or other personal ones.

That said, faced with Inconsistency (of the Positive nature) or Consistencies of being pained by their behavior (being ignored or lashed out at), I would “Consistently” React (Be negative towards them by Deleting, Blocking, Ignoring back, etc.).. which would be worst than ‘Reinforcing’ the negative relationship, because I was also Betraying Myself, by throwing my Soul out of Alignment (then, feeling horribly Guilty, ruminating obsessively over what happened, etc.).

It took me almost 40 years to see that this form of ‘Control’, the need to have things the way I want them (Positive!), is absolutely not effective.  I can’t Control the Nature of any Relationship.  All I can do is take Control of *My* behavior by making sure I’m Consistently in Alignment with myself.

These days, I realize that we Attract like as much as we Attract Experiences that will help us Evolve, Grow.  We will have relationships that will Support us and some that will Challenge us.

Embrace them all, because without the Good the Bad and the Ugly – you wouldn’t be who you are today – which is the Result of what you have learnt, are learning, and will learn.

Learn to be Yourself at All Times and Accept to Walk away from what and who is Consistently hurting you.  The lesson sometimes can be to just Walk away.

Much Love to you all!

 

Are you an Island or a Bridge?

Dear you,

Hope you’re happy and well!  I’m great, so happy it’s the school holidays!  Don’t have much planned for them (YAY!), except some walks, visits to the library, and of course Anna’s 11th birthday (Double YAY!)!!

The last few days, I’ve been Cardmaking.  When I craft, it feels almost like doing meditation, where you can really disconnect with everything and just focus on the task.  Also, other times, it’s a great opportunity to really think about everything.

Yesterday, I was thinking about my relationships with some people and it really brought home the concept of Bridges and Islands.  Before mom’s passing, I used to be in ‘contact’ with a lot of family members.  I realized that mom was a “Bridge”.  She made people communicate between each other, she would organize family meetings, call people up to find out how they are, etc.  She brought the family together.  She was Clearly a Bridge.

After her passing, the relationships that weren’t naturally connected fell apart into separate Islands.  I am my own Bridge with those I love, clearly.. and those that love me naturally ‘bridge’ towards me too.  They write me, call, etc.

This year, as I’m making cards (which cost a fortune to send internationally!!), I decided to just leave those ‘Islands’ be.  The ones I used to be Bridged to by mom (forcefully), I’m letting go of officially this year.

Cardmaking made me realize how many of those ‘forced’ relationships we have in our life through “Bridges”.  Some “Bridges” force people together, which in some instances can be great, when they offer unification opportunities between people that love each other but just ‘forget’ to communicate because they’re too busy, etc.  I’m thinking about a Cousin that does that a lot, organize family parties, etc.  She’s a wonderful Bridge.

Then there are the Bridges that are forced Negatively, between people that don’t get along.  Those are really only Temporary until the Bridge is gone, like my mom.  All those relationships that I never wanted, but had forced down my throat, left with her.

Unless you actively cultivate positive relationships, once the Bridge is gone, so will those relationships (Thankfully, in some cases).  The problem is that a lot of people take for granted those Bridges, and what they do for them.  Often times, people that are more of the Island type (as I am myself), can tend to feel very Entitled.  I have someone in mind who feels they can say and do whatever they like, because the Bridge will always Force the Islands together.

In life, at almost 40, I realize how immature and destructive that way of thinking is.  Especially after losing the Main Bridge of my life.

The fact that we share our Island with other people means there will be need to compromise, adapt, accept unconditionally various Bridges and connective Islands – until and unless – they become destructive and only/mainly bring chaos to the home.

On the one hand, I think to myself that I really need to “Actively” invest time and Positive Energy in those relationships I WANT to keep once the Bridge is gone and they are no longer ‘forced'(?) to be connected to me.  And on the other hand, I try to remain Zen with the relationships that are clearly only Temporary, and that will leave with the fallen Bridges, unless they blossom unexpectedly.

Some people in my life are clearly Unifiers, wanting everyone to get along – for better and for worse: they are Bridges.  Then, there are people who are happily living within their bubble, peacefully, in Organized Solitude (which can mean Together with others, where everyone in doing their own thing harmoniously, like two people reading side-by-side): they are Islands.

That said, everyone is an Island and a Bridge alternatively depending on the situation and the people they encounter, but generally speaking there are very clear tendencies (as some people can’t stand to be alone, and others, be in a crowd).

So, yeah, it’s something to think about: Are you a Bridge or an Island?  What will be left in your Life once the main Bridges are gone?

 

Update, Dreams & Astral Projections

Cloud Computing and Nature Concept

Good morning!

Hope you’re doing well.  I’ve been taking a small break from the Internet (mostly just checking my emails, etc and then leaving again).

I’m SO glad it’s almost the weekend, and then, the school holidays!  Winter is always so long!!  As much as I actually enjoy the rain (as there’s less people around), I tend to get over the Greyness rather quickly!

Anyway, today’s the Parent-Teacher Conferences (BOO!) and the Food Delivery (YAY!).  I decided to order a day earlier to balance things out.

I’ve been reading a lot this week.  I put my hands on an *amazing* book about OBE’s – can’t remember the exact title now, but if you check out my Goodreads’ page or my FB, you’ll see it.

Anyway, if you remember reading about my dream where someone was helping me change my Vision.. well, I actually read *exactly* what that was about.  Meaninful coincidence??  Anyway, apparently there are helpers that are actually there to help us acheive access to our Mentalsoma from our Psychosoma (which I had no idea about honestly).  So, yeah.. it described/explained perfectly what I went through.  It was almost Surreal.

Since then, this week.. I’ve had 2 other very odd ‘dreams’/Astral Projections (with the minimum lucidity).  Basically, one of them was about my uncle that’s passed away many years ago.  I’ve always found it odd that he never visited me.. but eventually, I had to let it go and just move on.  Anyway, I dreamt of him maybe once or twice is 3-4 years’ish?

This week though.. I actually *saw* him.  I found myself ‘dreaming’ that I was sitting at a table with him eating cake (lol) when suddenly, he asked me if I was sad.  At that moment, for some reason, it clicked that he had passed away and I was in an OBE.  I told him that of course I was sad that he had passed away/transitioned, because he was like a father to me, etc.  Then, before I could finish he shook his head.

I stopped talking.. and suddenly I had all these pictures in my mind.  It was very clear to me that he was sending me telepathically images of what he meant: If I was sad that he hadn’t taught me more about Astrology and all sorts of Mystical themes that he apparently knew about.  I had no idea how much he knew about these things until I saw it in my mind.  Anyway, the experience lasted a little longer and then, I told him I had to go and woke up.

This.. is also one of the very obvious signs to me in the difference between dreams and OBE’s.  I *usually* get to say ‘goodbye’ before I wake up during an OBE.. except once, where I got Spooked and the high level of emotion woke me up.

The second moment this week that I spontaniously woke up in my dream.. with perfect awareness had to do with mom.  This one though, I’ll keep to myself.  It wasn’t the most amazing encounter or the cheeriest.

It seems to me that when you transition, you do so with whatever baggage you were carrying at the time of your passing.  It’s not because you’re on the other side that you suddenly resolve everything.

I used to think that people suddenly gained incredible insight and peace, etc, but that’s not a give-in.  It looks to me, after all my experiences, that it’s really a case-by-case situation.  Some people do transition and remember who they are (the sum of all their incarnations), but others do not.  Some just carry from one incarnation to the next some blocages or .. just a minimum of remembrance of who they were.

Anyway, I could go on for longer about it, but it might make the post too long.  That said, it seems that when you transition there are moments of higher lucidity than others.  I’ve met people on the other side that seemed stuck in repetitive patterns.  At least, during my conversation with mom, she seemed to be working through her issues with ‘someone’.  That’s a comfort at least.